Becoming Internally Zen: When You Have Children

Are you a worry-wort? If you sit and feel anxious about your children and how safe they are, this is normal. But, you don’t need to let it overwhelm you. You can be internally calmer, trust us. Here is how to be internally zen when you have children…

Internally Zen When You Have Children

Contact; with the children

It is a must that we can always stay in touch with our children. When they get older, they’ll be going out alone to school and with friends. We did too, right? Phone repair is what you need if you have damaged your phone and rely on it to communicate with your children. Whether they are at school or out with a friend, it is important to be able to contact them at all times. It’ll help you make sure they’re safe. Hence, if a communication line gets damaged, be sure to fix it as soon as you can. Then, you can maintain the safety of your child when you aren’t with them.

Boundaries; with others

Establish boundaries for your children and others contributing to your parental worries, such as other parents and child-minders. Communicate your feelings and boundaries assertively and respectfully. Communicate openly and honestly with your children about your feelings and concerns.

Problems; alone 

Practicing good problem-solving skills is good for helping you deal with and manage the difficulties and concerns that seem to appear in parenthood. If you are faced with a huge problem or worry, break it up into many smaller more manageable problems or worries. Then, brainstorm many ways to solve or at least alleviate the problem. When appropriate, you might even include your child in a problem-solving discussion. By doing so, they take on responsibility for the decisions that are made.

Communicate; with everyone 

It can be helpful to understand why you are so worried about your child. Check-in with trusted friends or mental health professionals for perspective or reassurance if you feel like you are unreasonably worried about your child or to obtain guidance about potential risks or worries if your concerns are justified. If you can tell someone your worries and have them understand and offer sympathy or guidance, worry may not seem so bad. Look for groups or online communities of other parents that you can join so you can find other people who are experiencing the same thing you are.

Reflection; by yourself

Make sure that you practice gratitude and perspective-taking to replace parental anxiety. Every day take five minutes to think about many good things in your child’s life and your success as a parent too. Concentrate on the experiences of joy and development you get to go through with your kids, and appreciate all of the times you get to watch your children mature.

Independence; for your children

Encourage independence and resilience in your children by letting them take on appropriate responsibilities for their age, make up their minds, and learn from their experiences. This will help them develop skills to solve problems and help you handle parental anxiety. You can be internally calmer and stop worrying when they have some independence.

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