Kids need confidence. Fact, right?! I decided to share these Tips For Growing Confident Kids because they’ve produced great results with my own kids. They’re easy, simple, and effective ways to build confidence. Why are these Tips For Growing Confident Kids important? Because confidence is an important part of life…
Tips For Growing Confident Kids
Be your child’s biggest cheerleader. We are still potty training (at the tail end but accidents still happen) but we keep it positive. We praise the good days. We recognize when he’s dry. We commend him when he tells us he has to go when we are out and about. Confidence comes from positive experience. Build that good experience.
Calm it down and talk it out. One of my daughters dislikes talking with adults whom she doesn’t know. Like phoning the orthodontist’s office to re-schedule an appointment. So what did I do? Obliged her to make the call. I said, “Hey, it’s YOUR appointment. So it’s YOUR responsibility.” She replied “But I don’t know what to say! I don’t want to. Can you just do it for me?!” Tough call, because I could certainly have been a snowplow parent, push away the obstacle, and have the appointment re-scheduled for her. But this wouldn’t help grow self-confidence.
I had her calm down. Talked out what she should say. Discussed what she could expect them to say. And reminded her that the consequences were not serious. What’s the worst that would happen? Having to repeat herself? I reassured her the secretary only wanted to make an appointment not quiz her on her multiplication tables. And she did it. Big smiles afterwards too. Confidence comes from overcoming a challenge.
Give them space to try and the support to have their back. My oldest daughter is at an age where she can come and go as she pleases (during daylight hours). Honestly, it scares the bejesus out of me but I know this her grow the confidence to be self-reliant when travelling to and from the places she needs to go. This is a life skill, in fact. So, off she goes…out into the world. And if ever she misses a bus, she knows to keep calm and simply call home and I’ll guide her. It makes me smile, knowing she not only has the confidence to venture out on her own, but also to ask questions when things don’t go precisely as planned.
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Love your Calm it Down and Talk it Out! This is so important in life and why not start young. I try and get my girls to order their own food and ask questions when we are searching for items.
Those are great tips. I think encouraging our kids definitely goes a long way towards building self esteem.
I do encourage my children. I think there is a danger in over-doing it though.
These are all good tips. We have to help our kids develop confidence in themselves, so that they can be strong and make smart decisions when they become adults.
Great topic. I think a lot of parents on focused on growing their children in other areas that they forget confidence.
These are great tips! I’m always my daughters biggest cheerleader in everything that she does!
That is so awesome! We have to be our kids’ best cheerleaders.
Agreed – I think many parents just think confidence just comes with kids – but really you have to grow it.
Absolutely!
Everything in moderation right?! And I certainly don’t think you should ever push a child beyond their limits.
Two of my kids are extremely different – I know I have to encourage them differently – and I have different expectations bc I know what one kid is comfortable with is not the same for the other.
I have my girls order their own food too! It seems such a little task – but it’s actually a good lesson in making decisions – communicating – being clear – being polite.
Great tips! I try to encourage my kids as best I can and so far I think it’s working well!
Confidence is something all children need to face daily challenges. Good tips.
It’s definitely important to help kids build confidence. Without it they won’t get very far.
This is very helpful advice. Confidence will open up so many different opportunities for your kids. It’s very important.
Such great – and important – tips. “Confidence comes from overcoming a challenge” is so true.
Those are really good tips. Will use some of these!
These are really wonderful tips to help your child.
As a kid I HATED calling anyone I didn’t know on the phone! It’s great that you talked your daughter through this difficult task for her.
Knowing when to back off and give them space is one of the most important things you can do for a child to help them grow up to be confident. These are all great tips!
Encouragement and unconditional support are key. Great tips for parents.
These are amazing tips, encourage them to set goals and to work hard; let them know that failure is only a stepping stone to success!
The last tip was major for me growing up. I needed that space to make mistakes & be able to go back to my parents for security 🙂
Hey Caroline – I only had the one – and he was, is, gifted in the brainy/art area – so spent a lot of quality time with him and tried each of your points – he seems very confident now in the big scary world of letting our kids go out on their own! Whew – great points you’ve made!
These sound like great tips, I know I always found it better when things were explained to me a kid.
Those are amazing tips. I try to give my kids space but follow up closely. It does wonders with their confidence
These are great tips for raising confident kids. Confidence is so important for a successful life.
I fel like I do all of those already. I hope that helps for my kids confidence.
Raising confident kids is so important, especially in today’s times. I always remind my boys how talented and wonderful they are.
I have to learn the calm down part. I have no patience for certain things my kids do.
One of our (grown) “kids” is painfully shy…and I have have tried since he was young to help him overcome it. I don’t think it is a lack of confidence, but one of your examples sounded that way.
I love the part about giving them their space. Sometimes we all need our time to process things.
I love your tips! I always want to be my kids biggest cheerleader.
It’s so important to remain calm and talk things through with kids. Confidence is key to success.
Instilling confidence in them at home goes such a long way for them when they’re out and about! It’s an important thing to deliberately focus on and your tips are awesome. 🙂
True. Some kids are born with more than others. My oldest is very confident in most areas and my middle son is very shy and not confident in a lot of things.
I read this and shared it with my husband.that you also encourage trust in them as well as yourself in the choices you made in their upbringing.
Great tips! And such an important skill to build!
Helpful tips! A reminder to stay positive, supportive and encouraging while also letting them face their challenges!
These are great tips. Thank you!
It’s all about confidence. I completely agree. Thank you for these tips.